No point in dilly dallying. I will get straight to the point because that’s how I like it and because this is filled with lots of info…so take out your pen and paper to take some notes. 😉
1. Beliefs trump everything.
If you believe you can, you probably will. But if you believe you can’t, you surely won’t.
As a fitness coach and health practitioner, I have seen it one too many times…someone comes in and says they are ready to make a change. Only a short period of time passes and they quickly revert back to old routines and throw their hands up in the air saying…”well that didn’t work” while already looking for the next thing. What happened here? I can tell you. Most often it comes down to their beliefs.
Repeat after me: your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your life.
My whole world shifted the day I began to believe in myself. Many years ago, my husband and I were trying to get our business up and running. Our business was more of a hobby (we were working other jobs) and we both felt like we were living in Groundhog Day. We knew we couldn’t sustain it. So we decided to either shut the business down completely or to sell it. One night shortly after, I was laying in bed and saw an ad for someone that helped gym owners become more profitable. The numbers that were being advertised through their testimonials made me say, “No way is that even possible”. BUT I couldn’t shake the possibility that it could be true…so I scheduled a call to learn more. The total investment that the company charged was enough to make us go completely broke OR completely change our lives forever. However, something in me had enough confidence in the owner of the company and just enough confidence in myself. We jumped in with 110% intention and the rest is history. We immediately went from barely making ends meet to quitting our jobs and hiring a full time team, continuing to scale, and starting other businesses .
I mean it when I say “You can do anything you want to do”, but having the belief in yourself to take the first step with confidence will trump everything else.
2. Changing your habits is as simple as recognizing patterns and taking action.
Once you change your beliefs, your thoughts, and your words…you need to be very intentional about your actions. You won’t always get it right and that’s not only ok…that’s good! Your mistakes will give you important data needed to analyze patterns and move in a direction to reach your goals.
After being an entrepreneur and business owner for over 8 years…I have seen two things to be most critical, after your belief system of course. It’s your ability to recognize patterns and your ability to take action.
Most people continue to make the same mistakes and it takes away the one thing you can’t get more of: TIME. Stop making the same mistakes and master the ability to recognize patterns in your life and your business.
In order to do this, you MUST have some form of data to analyze. You can’t manage what you can’t measure. Period. So start being deliberate about WHAT you are measuring and HOW you are measuring it. Then schedule out the time to intentionally comb through and analyze the data and decide what changes need to be made.
Once you have mastered the ability to measure and assess your data, there is an important step that cannot be skipped. You must take action. Taking action can be scary but it’s only from the action step that you can get more data. I promise you won’t have much data if you sit on your bum and only think about your goals. 😉 Living out the life you dream of only comes from consistently showing up!
All it takes to reach a goal is being able to reverse engineer it, map it out, track the data to make critical changes, and take consistent action. That’s it!
3. Practice my good/better/best approach
Don’t try jumping from the bottom of the staircase to the top…you’re only going to hurt yourself and be afraid to do it ever again. Instead I advise all clients to practice the good/better/best/optimal approach and take one stair at a time.
It is broken down quite simply. Any time you make a decision ask yourself, “What could I do here to make a better decision that aligns with my goals and values?” You may start out with the next best logical choice (a good option), but the next time you graduate to a better option, and eventually the most optimal option.
If you are always asking yourself that question and choosing a better option, you WILL see progress. And the more often you do this, the more QUICKLY you will reach your goal.
4. What works for one person, may not work for you
If I had a dollar for every time I heard someone say “Well (so and so) uses this and had good results so I got it too” I would be a very rich woman. Listen guys…just because your best friend saw results using some weight-loss strategy doesn’t mean it is best for you! Just because your neighbor is seeing success in her business using a particular lead converter doesn’t mean you will too. Business, health, relationships…it is all nuanced. There is so much complexity and to simply say that because something works for someone it will work for you is foolish.
I always describe it like a trip using MapQuest. If you put in your destination, but not your starting location…you aren’t going to get very far. Likewise…if you put in your starting location but not the destination, you are still stuck right where you are at. You really need to know both. The same is true for us in all areas of our life. So you may see the result from your neighbor, but you didn’t see where she was coming from. There were so many hidden pieces to the puzzle so you can’t possibly think you would get the exact same result.
What I like to do is to teach others about foundational principles that apply to anyone (like some of these tips for example) and help them discover their purpose & values which makes mapping out their goals much easier. Once you have specific goals and know where you are coming from, it is easier to have a course of action to successfully accomplish them.
So stop the comparison game and stop having unrealistic expectations because you aren’t looking at the full picture.
5. Surround yourself with the right people
This is one of my favorite tips and it may not seem like it, but it’s also one of the hardest for people to do.
It’s hard because it means you sometimes have to part ways with someone you’ve been close with for a long time because they encourage toxic behaviors. On the flip side, it’s also hard because opening yourself up to new people can be uncomfortable.
I get it. I’ve been there. Heck, it’s still one I’m working on and sometimes it has felt lonely. But I can tell you this: one of the greatest things I’ve done is to focus on surrounding myself with two kinds of people 1) likeminded individuals that are more successful than myself and are willing to teach me what they know and 2) kind and loving people that have a desire to grow and be challenged. This has served me well and it’s why it’s one of my favorite tips for this journey called life.
I love takeaways- something to prompt you to think for yourself, reflect on what you’ve learned, and take action. So with that said…I challenge you to look back through these tips and ask yourself what you can do this week to implement them into your life so you can use your time wisely and live a life you love. Shoot me a DM or tag me on IG if this was helpful to you!